Learn their tactics and they won’t fool you anymore.
She still pretended to play the sad widow for the public later in life. This is a system of actors who fool the public as one entity for the money people who keep them in the lap of luxury as long as they follow orders. It requires a lot of brainwashing and a sort of moral insanity for this system to work but that’s what we’re dealing with on a massive scale with a lot of the aristocracy.