This video has a bit of rambling but children of narcissists are taught things that destroy their future lives.
Having grown up with narcissistic parents, I initially learned everything backwards. I eventually realized if I did the opposite of what my parents would do that I’d be very wise to do so.
I summarized the video below by writing the following:
Narcissistic family rules for children.
- Uphold perfect family image.
- Keep secrets.
- Children must act like adults.
- Children are expected to act as slaves.
- Children get mixed messages.
- It’s safer to stay distant.
- The child is not allowed to feel feelings.
- Let the parents invade boundaries.
- Be hyper vigilant.
- Be perfect.
- Making mistakes means the child is unlovable.
It is one of our goals here to help deprogram victims of narcissistic abuse - which in this “culture” is pretty much everyone.