Do narcissists seek empaths as supply?

By Jane Slaughter

I’ll talk about those with Narcissistic personality disorders.

The answer is, yes they do. They’ll often pick ones to have intimate relationships with who are not initially very strong or sure of themselves and need someone who’ll take good care of them and who’ll listen to them and some narcissists can be amazing listeners (or seem to be). The empath is easily hypnotised by this apparently, loving, caring person who they fall head over heals in love with. Which is ideal as it’s very easy to control someone who’s in a trance.

All goes quite well until the empath starts to sense that all is not quite how it seems. They begin to doubt and that’s when the narcissist’s controlling methods begin to take on a different form.

I’d been trying to get my head around the mind set of the narcissist and gain some insight into the reasons I’d got so trapped, when one warm night I noticed a huge, metre wide spider’s web in the garden. A large orb web spider was speedily and dextrously knitting what was to be the largest and most perfect web I’d ever seen, when completed the spider took up position in the very centre and sat there, very still. I took some photos but I couldn’t get a good shot, so left my tripod in place planning to take some more photos in the light of day but by the morning there was no trace of the web or the spider.

That evening I noticed what must have been the very same spider building a new web in exactly the same spot.

I discovered that this species feeds in the dark. It spins it’s web at night fall and sits in wait for an array of insects to fly blind into the sticky threads. The desperate wriggle of each each captor sends a signal to the spider who scurries to it’s prey, injects it with paralysing venom, spins it around and whilst still alive sucks out the innards and the empty carcass float to the ground. When the spider’s had it’s fill and before the rising sun erases the darkness, it gathers up the remains of the damaged web and eats it, apparently to preserve protein for the next night’s project.

Nature had given me the answers I was seeking.